We begin at the line in the middle, we call this life lane. On this lane, neutral events occur that create a response that takes us above or below the line. If a loss of expectation occurs, a disconnection is created resulting in a state of loneliness. If left unattended, that loneliness creates a wound. That wound creates a chasm between what you want and what exists. If the wound persists then shame will be created. It covers the wound and yet doesn’t heal. That shame then manifests as hatred, either towards the self or others. The result of that hatred is anxiety, depression, or addiction.
We are consistently at choice in life lane. Each of these below the line expressions have different resolutions. Through choice we begin to access above the line. The first step is courage. Once courage is exhibited, the next guide post is connection – to your creator, to yourself, to others, and to nature. Each of these connection points offer different insights. These result in the flow of creativity. Which creates you living your life of legacy now. Usually legacies are assisting a population experiencing a state of loneliness.
That is very theoretical, so here is a simple example to bring this to life.
Imagine a child playing on a playground, falls, and scrapes their knee. This is the event. It creates a loss of expectation, they were expecting to stay on their two feet and have all their skin intact. The child finds itself as the only one on the playground with a skinned knee; this is isolation or loneliness. There is a literal wound on their knee. They feel shame as the blood runs down their leg, questioning themselves why they could not run and play like everyone else. They feel hate towards themselves for falling. They then feel anxious of what will happen since they are without their parents, who usually bandage them up.
The child is at choice, do they try to hide the scrape at the end of recess, keeping it in the dark. Or do they choice another route. One of courage to go tell a teacher they fell; to bring the wound to the light. They find a connection to another, to a teacher. Between the teacher and the student, they create a plan of how to care for the skinned knee. Once bandaged up, this child has the opportunity to live their legacy. The child now may see another child fall on the playground the next day, be willing to offer that they too had scraped their knee before, and how they were able to receive care to heal the wound. Thus resulting in the second child being at choice to be courageous to accept the connection and never having to experience shame, hate, or anxiety.